Some Personal Reflections on Negative Thinking
We are biologically hardwired to think negatively, it has helped us survive as a species to contemplate the “worst possible situation” and to find an alternate life saving path. We call this mechanism the Negativity Bias. This inherit bias is helpful in some situations but not…every situation…all the time. This bias can keep us in a perpetual state of negative thinking which affects how we feel, our energies, how we show up in the world, our health and so much more.
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We reflect the world we were brought up in
If we were raised in a house hold of “negative Nancy’s” and “Ned’s?”, then chances are we might have received some “programming” to carry similar negative thinking patterns from our environment.But guess what…our brain is neuroplastic and we can change the expressions of our genes (hello epigenetics) through changing our environment. The most immediate environment being our bodies and our minds.
If we were raised to think a certain way, we can change that. Right now. Because sometimes those thought are not entirely ours. We can objectively look at our thoughts and realize…hmm this is an emotion or thought that is looping…why is it there…what is it trying to tell me. Oh…this is something my dad used to say or still says…this is not mine.
Rumi explains it all…
Let’s take a look at the poem, The Guest House by the great mystic poet Rumi
The Guest House
This being human is a guest house.
Every morning a new arrival.
A joy, a depression, a meanness,
some momentary awareness comes
as an unexpected visitor.
Welcome and entertain them all!
Even if they’re a crowd of sorrows,
who violently sweep your house
empty of its furniture,
still, treat each guest honorably.
He may be clearing you out
for some new delight.
The dark thought, the shame, the malice,
meet them at the door laughing,
and invite them in.
Be grateful for whoever comes,
because each has been sent
as a guide from beyond.
This poem is all about objectively looking at the “thoughts” or visitors / experiences that come into our lives. Welcome them all in…even if they’re a “crowd of sorrows” and allow them to teach you a lesson.
The Main Key is Awareness
We must learn to tap into that gentle space of awareness, to objectively examine these thought patterns, weed them out, and plant new seeds. These seeds can be seeds of love, seeds of neutrality, seeds of grace. Just allowing it all to be and not getting upset towards yourself for harboring them. You are a human on the earth plane…this is all part of the beauty, but awareness is key. When we let go of attachment of our thoughts we allow breathing room.
Some tips to get out of the negative thinking patterns
To be aware enough to realize these thought patterns are there is a the ultimate breakthrough. If you have been able to do this, I am SO proud and happy of you, for you! You did it. Please keep practicing, life will give you endless opportunities to practice. If we slow down enough we can give ourselves that sacred pause to watch our thoughts and not get “swept” away in their madness.
Step 2 – Be Curious
Be objectively curious of your thoughts. Question the thoughts. Maybe you need to write them down and do some investigative work to see where you picked up these thoughts…are they yours? Or are they something you’ve been conditioned to believe from family? from Society? Etc. Simply noting like meditation teaches us, “ah, a negative thought,” that is something you are experiencing but it is not you. You are pure love ❤️
Step 3 – Plant Seeds
Maybe this is a seed of love and positivity or coming from a place of objective neutrality. I like to place my hand on my heart space and comfort myself in those moments. An intuitive gesture of, “it’s going to be okay.” A few messages I like to share with myself in these moments are…
“And this to”
“I carry the seed of love”
Once we identify the looping negative thought we can try to plant a seed of opposition. If I am carrying the negative pattern of…”I’m not good enough, ” I could simply say to myself, ” I am good enough and I am getting better every day.”
Wow that is so so so much nicer to hear and I can feel a buzz throughout my entire body when I speak those works.
Step 4 – Change your thoughts and change your reality
Now that we have some positive or neutral seeds planted, keep practicing and really feel into those words. I have been leaning deeply into Dr. Joe Dispenza’s work over the past 2 years and he has transformed the way I see my inner world. He marries the seemingly disconnected worlds of science and spirituality and creates tangible steps to help people “break the habit of being themselves.” He says that our thoughts create our emotions (which is energy in motion) and that are personality creates our personal reality.
This literally blows my mind when I think about it. As someone on the path of awareness I can feel in my body how an emotion manifests through my thinking. We choose our realities with our thoughts.
What will you choose to say to yourself today?
Check out this post on Self Love ❤️
Building Love for Oneself
If you want to watch this in video format be sure to check out my recent Youtube Video, a stream of consciousness conversation around Negative Thinking 💭